I'm married. I'm a mom of 2. We have a dog. I work from home. I run a blog. I manage a household. I have extended family. I have friends. And...I have hobbies. So life can get a little hectic! And making time for everything can be challenging! However, I know that I'm at my best when I'm maintaining a healthy balance of it all...
There's nothing I enjoy more than being able to be there for my family as much as humanly possible. I'm with them from the time they wake up in the morning, until they lay their heads down at night. Even after...when I'm awakened to little hands tugging at my shoulders in the wee hours, being summoned to scooch over, or, sleepwalking to return someone to their bed, only to soothe them back to sleep...(sometimes soothing myself along with them).
I wouldn't trade those precious moments for anything in the world.
Nor would I trade being able to drop my kids off and pick them up from school everyday, taking them to every doctor's appt., dentist appt., running them to their countless extra-curricular activities and playdates, being there for every tumble and boo boo, or curious inquiry...or supporting my husband in his work, being his personal assistant, masseuse, and hype man. Nourishing all of their bodies, and making sure that they have a clean place to dwell.
But it's easy to get caught up in the day to day activities of being a parent and a significant other, and lose sight of how important it is to nurture the other areas of your life.
Sometimes I'm going and going and going, bouncing from my work computer, to the car, to a grocery store, back to the house, to a youth practice or my husband's job...and before I know it, the day is over, and I've done nothing to fill my personal cup. Either I've missed exercising, or writing, or reading, or just sitting down in stillness for a moment to recharge....or just simply calling and checking on a family member or catching up with friend.
And although our routines have changed drastically because of the Covid-19 pandemic, my time has been occupied just the same...with more messes being made, more food needing to be cooked, more clothes needing to be washed (when no one is going anywhere...I'm still trying to figure this mystery out), and me officially picking up the profession of a school teacher. So I've had to readjust to keep my balancing act steady. But nothing I can't handle...new circumstances, same principles.
Because the fact of the matter is...I've paid close attention to myself when I'm constantly pouring and not refilling, and I'm not that pleasant. And why would I expect to be anything else, if the contents of my cup are drier than the Sahara?
So, in order to prevent Sofia from "The Color Purple" in the "Fight My Whole Life" scene from coming out, I have to make sure I'm maintaining balance of all of my wants and needs. Even if I have to wake up a little earlier to do so. This allows me to get my exercise in and read a little bit, or sit in silence and have a cup of coffee before I start the day. I also plan out my day during that time too and remind myself that I don't have to do EVERYTHING at once (although the serial multitasker in me lurks all day) , and that it's ok to take baby steps. Maybe I can write one day, and read the next. Or chip away at a home improvement project day by day until it's complete. It's truly about understanding your personal needs, making the time, and following through.
And for some of you, the imbalance may show up differently...maybe you're working too much and not spending enough time with your family, or too much school and not enough of a social life, or perhaps even too much me time and not enough tending to your responsibilities. And sometimes, you're not even aware of the imbalance until you too, have turned into Sophia. Neglecting one area of your life in order to fulfill another, will do that to you. Balance is key. And it's conducive to our happiness.
So, hopefully you're able to adjust...for a fuller, much happier, and healthier life...mentally and physically.